why mainstream feminism for female gamers sucks

why mainstream feminism for female gamers sucks

Historically, the gaming industry has been filled with men. Lately, however, that fact is changing on a drastic scale. More and more women are joining the industry in various ways. We have designers, writers like me, producers, and so much more entering the scene.

That, of course, means women are entering the gaming population itself as well. This may appear expected by many but there is something that has not been as well received by so many in this vast community. That is the entrance of feminism for female gamers ourselves.

Feminists are going as far as to accuse the male gamers of all sorts of things, including rape and sexual harassment. Some of the accusations are founded, true, but there is a huge amount of unfounded accusations.

These accusations and the feminists behind them are being panned by tons of people, not to mention ridiculed. We women gamers didn’t necessarily ask for ourselves to be called out in such a manner. In fact, feminism for female gamers is something that is ridiculed in of itself.

I have even found a video on YouTube about a woman who accused several gamers of being haters toward her. This woman was panned in later videos on the streaming platform, which I have shared on my Twitter account on several occasions.

It is revealed that she was instigating the hatred toward her – the gamers were joking as is normal in the gaming community. Gamers everywhere are turned off by feminism for female gamers, including me. Let’s take a look at why I think feminism for female gamers sucks.

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Feminism tactics used in other industries aren’t effective here.

There are several areas where things are lacking in the gaming community, of course. You won’t find any community that is absolutely perfect. However, what you will find that the problems faced by women in the workplace or in society-at-large won’t be faced by women in the gaming community.

So it is obvious to state that methods used in society-at-large to make the world an easier place to live in for women won’t work in the gaming community. You will be laughed at by everyone in the community and basically run out.

Every segment of society has different problems that should be solved by different methods. Don’t try to use the same answer for every question or you’ll fail the figurative test.

You don’t want to be embarrassed by a massive community of gamers, right? This is why feminism for female gamers can sometimes suck. This is not one of those one-size-fits-all situations, my friend.

Feminists out there can be judgmental toward both genders in the gaming industries.

I’m sure we’ve all seen the articles lying around online about feminists who are rather judgmental toward their quote-on-quote “adversaries” on the other side. This is also true about the lady in the video I described above.  I left a link up there for you to watch it – let me know what you think about it in the comments below!

Because of that, what I call “mainstream” feminists aren’t exactly welcomed in the gaming community. There are still cases of sexual harassment against females in the gaming community that feminists can stand up for.

In fact, that’s what I stand for myself. On the other hand, you’ll see me playing video games before you see me being judgmental toward anyone. Perhaps that’s just my moral compass speaking into my actions.

There are women of all ages in the industry and not just grown women.

Like I mentioned in my first point, methods you’d use for mainstream society won’t work in the gaming community. I’m saying it again but for a completely different reason: there are women in the gaming community that are all ages.

That’s why feminism for female gamers might be a tad different than what you may be used to as a feminist or women’s rights activist. I’ve seen girls as young as 8 or 9 that are in the community and are just as good a gamer as the guys are.

Do I see a problem with that? Hell no – let girls be girls! Let them do what makes them happy: if video games make them happy then let them go for it instead of forcing Barbie dolls down their throat. For me, I started playing video games when I was in my pre-teen years.

I believe I was around 12 when I sat down with an N64 controller with my brother. I never saw an issue with this fact and wasn’t even aware of issues for women in the community until 15 years later!

So my point here is that there are girls of all ages in the gaming community that want to be treated just as seriously as the men in the community are. That is where I stand my ground: this is where my activism starts and finishes, my new buddy.

My Concluding Thoughts

Mainstream feminism won’t work in the gaming community. In fact, I’d dare say that mainstream feminism for female gamers downright sucks! We don’t want ALL the same things men want in the community – we really just want to be taken seriously in competitions.

We are, at times, told to do things that we aren’t comfortable with but that is happening less and less these days. What have you noticed in the gaming community? Put your thoughts in the comments section below and make sure to sign up for my newsletter!

Dear women in the #WomensMarch, let’s march for the female gamers too!

Dear women in the #WomensMarch, let’s march for the female gamers too!

As women, we are at a disadvantage in both the employment field. It’s been proven that we aren’t paid as much as our male counterparts and we aren’t given the same employment opportunities.

You know, when it comes to promotions and even entry-level positions. Sometimes we just aren’t given the job because we aren’t the gender the hiring professional was looking for. Awful, right?

That’s what we marched for the past couple of years, right? Besides the new president, of course.

Trump being elected kinda scared me a little too but we’ll get to that in a later blog post. We marched for the equal rights of both men and women.

We want to be given the same opportunities in a FREE country as the men do, right? Nothing says privileged better than men not even realizing that there’s even an issue.

Well, I want you to think about something else for a moment. What about the women who do what so many people call “nerdy”?

What about the women living in a man’s world? You know, the “nerdy” women like me. The women who play video games, enter into the cosplay scene, or delve into the world of anime and manga.

Have you heard about the sexual harassment we go through when we are “scouted” by the men in the video game industry?

It’s sickening to hear of stories where we are asked to play topless or even in the nude. There’s also the idea that men don’t think women are as skilled as they are when it comes to the games themselves.

Because of that, there’s the lack of inclusivity that other industries have. So yes, you should definitely include us in the #womensmarch in the coming years.

Want to know why you should care? Sure, that’s a relevant question I’d be asking myself. Well, I’ve got an answer to the question too, of course! Make sure to sit back and enjoy as I delve deeper into the issue.

Dear women in the #womensmarch, let's march for the female gamers too!

WHY you should include us in the march

We, as female gamers, also identify as the women you are marching for. Why shouldn’t we have the chance to put our foot down in a public sector?

No, we aren’t hopeless – we have our platforms and our heroines we look up to. Yet our issues are often overlooked on a bigger scale.

You don’t often hear of female gamers being sexually harassed very often, do we? This is what is so frustrating – we are sometimes afraid to come forward and no one is helping us vocalize our feelings.

This is the problem with this issue: no one knows about the issue and no one is coming forward to talk about it.

This is why you should include ALL marginalized women in your march and not just the women affected by the new presidency of the United States.

And no, I do believe in the idea that Trump is not my president. But that is a blog post for another day, mmkay? (#SouthParkReference)

HOW you should include us in the march

This is an easy question to answer for me since I’m a female gamer myself. The answer is this: be more inclusive toward the people you want to help.

Include other marginalized groups in society, such as trans people and gamers. We may not have the same issues you do but we could still shed light on many of the issues being seen in society today.

That includes different types of sexual harassment or even the types of harassment being directed toward the LGBT community. They see it enacted toward them as much as we see it toward us as women.

That makes sense, right? Another way to include us in the fight for equality in the #WomensMarch is to start a conversation. Ask us about what we face as female gamers in society today. We don’t live in the dark ages anymore but that doesn’t mean we don’t face issues.

We are strong AF, being women, but that doesn’t mean we don’t need help standing up for ourselves from time to time. Just because we seem like nerds to you in our little corner of reality doesn’t mean we aren’t women who could relate to your message.

Dissent is the highest form of patriotism.

WHEN you should include us in the march

This may seem like a smartass question but I thought I’d ask it anyway. You should include us NOW.

Not in the next march but before that…long before that. We all deserve a voice and we want to use that voice to make the world a better place for everyone living in it.

That makes sense, doesn’t it? Yeah, I thought so. We are all women at the end of the day and we want to help make the #WomensMarch a powerful voice for the goal of equality.

We want the world to see that we are a force to be reckoned with. We can’t do that if we don’t include everyone at every turn.

That’s what makes us so passionate about the idea of helping. That is why this blog is here: creating a voice for female gamers when there wasn’t a loud one before.

We want the men to see that we deserve the same chances at life as they do and we can’t do that without a strong voice to lead us in action.

So don’t forget to include us in the march – even in the beginning stages. We could become better women by learning more about the problems other women face.

We could become better women by striving together to solve those problems. The world won’t become any better for anyone if we don’t strive to take action for that result!

Concluding thoughts

I believe the #WomensMarch should be about inclusivity for all female-identifying individuals. This includes transgender women and female gamers.

This is something I am very passionate about, as you can see.

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The Ultimate Hunger Games Review

The Ultimate Hunger Games Review

The Hunger Games chronicles the “adventures” of Katniss Everdeen. This trilogy takes place in a post-apocalyptic future, where teenagers are pitted together in a battle called “The Hunger Games”.

Yeah, freaky stuff that isn’t meant for younger readers. I’m sure my blog isn’t being seen by younger readers, though, so I think we’ll be okay.

Anyway, Katniss volunteers to be tribute when her sister’s name is picked during their people’s lottery system for the battle.

Her younger sister, Prim, is naive and described as a sweet girl. Katniss fears Prim would never survive the games.

It is a very gripping series, especially when Katniss begins to rebel against the powers that be. Honestly, I’d do the same thing in her position.

They took the life of her sister, for Pete’s sake! Oh and also the lives of hundreds of innocent people.

That’s not to mention the young lives lost during the Games themselves. So what did I think of the trilogy, you’re asking?

Well, let me answer that question for you in depth, my new friend!

The Ultimate Hunger Games Trilogy Review

Point #1: Female Point of View

I couldn’t resist adding this point of fact into my review of the trilogy. I love heroines and can’t get enough of them!

Katniss is a total badass and is someone I’d respect if she was a person living in our plane of reality.

She can see the reality of her situation for what it really is and does not sugar-coat it in any way. She doesn’t take any shit from anyone and won’t let anyone tell her any lies.

She refuses to let her mother fall into depression again after the death of her younger sister, Prim.

She refuses to let grief for Prim’s death cloud her judgment in later decision-making.

How could we not love someone like her? I’m a feminist so seeing a protagonist like Katniss makes me smile.

I can totally see Katniss fighting for the rights of women around her. What do you think when you think about Katniss? Put your thoughts in the comment section below!

Point #2: Plot Twist

Of course, I have to discuss the plot twists in the trilogy as well. It wouldn’t be a true review of the books if I didn’t, right?

You never expect Peeta to be saved when the rebellion tries to do so. He comes back but he’s mentally scarred by the brainwashing done by the Capitol.

This, of course, upset me immensely and caused me to put the books down for a little while.

I was letting my aunt borrow them during this time and let her finish the books before I picked up where I left off.

I couldn’t get through all the death, which is a first for me. I am usually desensitized to the idea of death in books.

I suppose the characters had become part of my life and had begun to tug on my heart-strings after the first half of the second novel.

This had happened to me before in other trilogies but not like with The Hunger Games. I haven’t dealt with it since then and hope that I never will again.

I’m sending mixed signals now, aren’t I? I’m sorry – my bad! Don’t get me wrong: I’m in love with this trilogy and the accompanying films.

Point #3: The Epilogue

I have never been happier to see the ending of a trilogy. I know that’s a horrible thing to say but bear with me for a moment.

In the epilogue, Katniss finally gets the peace she deserves. It isn’t said directly in the novel but it is inferred that Katniss and Peeta are now married.

They have two children: a toddler and a baby. Katniss promises the baby that she will tell the story of the games to her children when they are older.

She is working her hardest to make sure that no one else goes through what the former tributes did years before.

Knowing Katniss like we do by this point, we know that she will be successful in this venture as well.

We can only hope that the young parents get what they deserve in life: peace without having to look over their shoulders.

That’s every parent’s hope these days, right? That would be my hope, anyway.

In Conclusion

So, this trilogy is a great one if you’re looking for a new book to read. There are quite a few disturbing things held within its pages so please be warned of that part.

If you don’t mind violence or death, then make sure to pick up a copy of The Hunger Games.

Make sure to sign up for my newsletter below so you can keep up with my blog. Leave a comment below of your favorite scene in the trilogy as well!

The death of sexual harassment toward female gamers is here!

The death of sexual harassment toward female gamers is here!

One of the things that makes me angriest these days is the stories I hear about female gamers, like you and me, who go through periods of sexual harassment. These stories include ones about men approaching them and asking the woman to play video games completely nude or perhaps topless.

For me, I would knock out the person who requested that of me. But this is all too normal for women in the gaming industry. This makes me so angry and is the reason I started this blog.

I wanted an encouraging community without the sexual harassment that goes on almost daily or weekly among other communities these days. I popped out of my box with the idea that I wanted to change things for us women and I will happily do so, one step at a time.

I wanted to take a closer look at how we can change the world to put the sexual harassment to rest for good this time. Why don’t we get started, ladies?

The death of sexual harassment toward female gamers is here!

“Put our foot down and make a stand.”

As females, we deserve the respect that men get on a daily basis. Sadly, we don’t get that respect and that needs to end. We need to put our feet down and make a stand for our respect, not just for our sanity but the impression of our children.

We need to show these children that we deserve the same respect as people of the opposite sex. Take note of that phrasing as well: I believe transgender people deserve that respect as well. We need to make sure everyone feels included in the fight since we need to make a stand.

We need to show people that we are not going to give up until our needs are met. Why shouldn’t we fight for our rights? We are able to vote and get a job, of course, but we still don’t have the same privileges as men in certain areas.

You know, like not getting paid as much as men today. Some women are paid half as much as men for doing the same darn job! How pathetic is that, anyway? I want that to stop and am putting my foot down to do so.

I am making a stand for my fellow woman and the LGBTQ+ community. I will always stand up for both communities since I am a woman of the LGBTQ+ community.

I have affiliated with both groups for quite a while, years actually, and this is where I’ve seen all the disparities that we deal with as women. It’s even worse for people in the LGBTQ+ community since there is even more judgment there.

As gamers, we have a unique perspective that we can use to make a stand. We need to use that perspective so we can make a bigger impact.

Natalie Portman

“Put the pervert on blast.”

This is the scariest part of the plan, ladies. There is so much fear about bringing our stories to light. Sure, we live in an Age of Information but that doesn’t mean we won’t be dealing with negative consequences from following this step.

We should still speak out about our experience with being sexually harassed, however. We should do this because we can use our stories to warn other women about the perverts that are out there.

I’m sure you’ve seen all the women coming out (and men too!) about their experiences with sexual assault. I’m sure you’ve heard Halsey’s poem during the Women’s March of 2018 and Natalie’s speech during that same Women’s March.

Actually, Natalie’s speech is what motivated me to come up with this blog post. I wanted to use this blog as inspiration for us all to come out against the offenders.

Coming out with our stories is a brave act in of itself and can be the catalyst for others coming out. Women could see us coming out with our experiences and realize that if we are brave enough to do so, then they can do that too.

Who wouldn’t want to see that? Good can come out of such a frightening act and how you view it is completely up to you. Let’s get the “party” started, shall we?

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In Conclusion

I know this post might be offensive to some people and I’m sorry for the offense I’ve caused. I know it’s also radical and that’s the point I wanted to make here.

I wanted to make it radical so it causes women to jump out with their experiences. I am here to support everyone who wants to join the movement and will always be here for you.

I’m only an email away or a DM away on Facebook. Make sure to join my newsletter – you can always reply to an email I’ll send you through the newsletter. Make sure to join my group, The Game Goddesses, as well!

This is what it looks like when you decide to use Twitch.

This is what it looks like when you decide to use Twitch.

I thought I’d write about something a tad different today since I’m in a group about it on Facebook. I wanted to talk about Twitch.

For those of you who don’t know, Twitch is a streaming service for gamers and it’s a great source of visibility for your gaming skills.

It can also be used as a social media platform for gamers since that’s what it’s geared toward. (That is, if you don’t count Discord but that’s a post for another day.)

Being able to reach fellow gamers is a huge deal these days since most of us want to be seen by sponsors in the easiest way possible.

What’s an easy way to be seen by sponsors, you ask? Why, by streaming your gameplay for all the world to see, of course!

I know this is a scary thought for a lot of us, me especially. I am definitely an introverted person by nature and this is something I have to live with every day of my life.

I love talking to people and have always loved helping others. I suppose that’s why this blog was created in the first place – I wanted to be ablet o answer your questions and further your gaming activities in any way I can.

So let’s get started on this journey into learning more about Twitch and what it can do for you.

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Fact #1: Increasing visibility

One of the main things streaming on Twitch can do for you is to increase your visibility. As a professional gamer, we want to be as visible as we can so we can gain new sponsors.

In order to do that, we need to be out there on social media as much as possible. One of the best things you can do for yourself in this area, is to choose the social media channel that your ideal sponsor spends most of their time on.

That can be Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Twitch. Using Twitch to get yourself out there is always a good idea since people can help you with problem areas in the games you play.

The more people who watch your streams, the more likely you are to be seen by possible sponsors. You can see where I’m going with this idea, right?

In case you don’t know where I’m going with this thought process, the sponsors who see your streams might like what they see and will reach out to you.

They won’t find you if they don’t know you exist, right? Increasing your visibility upon your peers can also help you meet fellow gamers, which helps you get more friends.

I’m sure you’d like more friends, right? I’ve never seen fellow gamers or bloggers as competition since we can always find a way to help each other.

I’ve even reached out to bloggers with ideas of how I can help them. I am a helper and always have been but that’s just me.

Fact #2: Connecting with other gamers

Twitch has a chat function during live-streams so you can talk with the people watching the stream. This can give you a chance to get to know your fellow gamer.

Nine times out of ten, you wouldn’t be able to meet this gamer otherwise. This gives you a new chance to raise up a great community of gamers who believe in the same things you do.

It makes things a ton of fun, right? Of course, you’ll get the haters but there isn’t anything you can do in this world that won’t produce at least one hater.

Ignoring the hater(s) is the best thing you can do since they will leave you alone in time. With Twitch, you can stream your gameplay without the bias we women go through.

There are people out there who ask female gamers like us to do insane things for their fetish desires. Twitch won’t allow these things to happen, which will cause us to be able to relax while playing.

I’ve come across so many female gamers streaming on Twitch, which has caused me to make so many new friends. You can create new friendships as well on Twitch as you explore the many games being streamed live every day.

Fact #3: You can get some money.

The more often you stream on Twitch, the more likely you are to gain the attention of sponsors.

These sponsors will pay you to play their games and give them feedback on what you played.

They will also pay you to stream on Twitch from time to time. When you are using Twitch Prime, you will also get some money for any subscribers you receive.

These people aren’t just following you, they will subscribe to your streams so they can get emojis to use in the chat area.

These emojis are incredibly fun to use and it made me smile to see Final Fantasy and Super Mario emojis.

I’ve also seen Legend of Zelda emojis while a gamer was playing Ocarina of Time. Seeing these emojis in the chat area is quite amusing and can cause smiles all around.

Make sure to make the most out of what you can do on Twitch, as I’m sure you can get some good money after some time. It might take quite some time to get income from Twitch subscribers but don’t get discouraged when it doesn’t happen immediately.

Refer to step number one since you’ll need more visibility to get more subscribers. There are Facebook groups for female Twitch streamers where you can let people know about when you’ll be streaming.

Make sure to join those groups so you can get the word out! Why wouldn’t you want to take advantage of that ability?

In Conclusion

So those are three reasons you should check out Twitch. You can make new friends, you can increase your visibility, and you can create an income while doing what you love.

Using Twitch to get your name out there can be one of the easiest things you can do for yourself as a gamer. Make sure to check out my other blog posts and subscribe to my newsletter!

My Life, My Blog, My Career: How This Blog’s Background Info Helped Me Succeed

My Life, My Blog, My Career: How This Blog’s Background Info Helped Me Succeed

You are a female gamer that is looking for a kick-ass community of fellow female gamers. You have been looking for a community for quite some time but have not been successful yet.

It is beginning to feel a little infuriating to you since you’ve been looking for so long without success.

You don’t know where else to do at this point when all of a sudden you see a new group on Facebook where a few of your gamer friends are spending their time.

You check out the rules of the group and find that you could easily follow them while interacting with fellow gamers.

You are delighted to find that it is a group just for females. You feel like you’ve finally found the group you’re meant to be in.

There are so many women in this group that you haven’t met – you figure there has to be someone in the group that plays the same games you do.

What is the chance that you won’t meet a new gaming bestie?! Yeah – pretty small, right? The thought makes you smile as you decide to send a request to join the group.

You figure you don’t have any risks right now: you could always leave the group if you find that it’s not to your liking.

Well, guess what? That’s my group you’re entering, my new friend. You have decided to enter The Gaming Goddesses and decided to check out The Fearless Female Gamer blog.

I couldn’t be happier about that and I hope you enjoy your time here! I thought I’d do a different kind of blog post today since I haven’t discussed my inspiration for this blog yet.

I wanted to take a few moments to go over the inspiration of this blog and what you can expect from it (and me).

Background Info

Chaoko: The Fearless Female Gamer’s inspo sesh

There is a young woman named Chaoko in Spain that I gather my inspiration from. I found her originally on Facebook in a video PlayGround did with her as a collaboration.

You’d think she is a cosplayer if you look at what she wears on a daily basis. The thing is, she doesn’t consider herself to be a cosplayer – it’s just who she is.

I totally respect that as a fellow female gamer: we are misunderstood in the gaming industry.

She talks about how she was told to game nude at one point toward the end of the video. The thing that makes me the angriest is the idea that this is the norm for us these days.

This isn’t okay and we shouldn’t be degraded by people asking us to do this! We are people just like the male gamers are – what if the men got asked to do this on a normal basis?

To be fair, I’m sure men are asked to do this on occasion. We just don’t hear about it often; in fact, I’ve never heard of it happening.

I’m not going to say it never happens, though, because I’m sure it does somewhere.

Anyway, I wanted to create a safe place for female gamers like me who want to discuss the games they’re playing.

We need a safe place to ask our questions without the fear of someone making fun of us. There are some things that are hard for me to get past that aren’t hard for other gamers.

I’m sure Chaoko doesn’t have much of the community aspect in Spain so I wanted to create a safe place for people like her…and me.

I live in a small town in South Carolina (the southeastern United States, for those who were wondering) and there aren’t many female gamers over here either.

We need more both in Spain and the southeastern United States!

What you can expect from the blog – and me

There are a few things you can expect from both me and the blog itself. Like I said just above, I wanted to create a community as a safe place for my fellow female gamers.

I’m a huge feminist who believes in the equality of everyone who lives on planet Earth. (If there are extraterrestrials living in the universe, this applies to them too!)

You can go ahead and expect that safe community as you enter the group and read the blog posts here.

I am here to help gamers who have questions and create a safe place to ask questions. You can ask the questions you believe are dumb – I don’t believe there are dumb questions.

I had a teacher in college that said the only dumb questions are the ones left unsaid. I still take that quote to heart half a decade later.

The Game Goddesses is a Facebook group that caters to answering your questions and making sure everyone has a f***ing blast playing the games they love.

If you have a question about a place you’re stuck in, I *dare* you not to ask it! I want you to ask any question you have without having to look over your shoulder every time.

Frankly, I’ve felt that way before and I’ve decided that this group will abolish that for us women.

We are stronger than anything men throw at us and we need to get that out there more often – so here’s to creating our own world of badassery!

In Conclusion

I am constantly inspired by my fellow cosplayers and women gamers. Chaoko has my respect and I’m sure she’d have yours too.

She is living a life of badassery in her own way and that’s what I want to see more of these days.

We shouldn’t be afraid and looking over our shoulders as women so I created a community that is all about empowerment.

Who’s ready to be a part of the badass empowerment that we can offer each other? Make sure to join the group and join my newsletter – ya won’t regret it!